Weak convergence as convergence of matrix elements Let $H$ be a Hilbert space with orthonormal basis $(e_h)_{h \in \mathbb{N}}$ and let $(A_n)_{n \in \mathbb{N}}$ and $A$ be bounded linear operators. We say that $A_n$ converges weakly to $A$ if 
$$\forall \xi, \eta \in H, \quad (\eta, A_n\xi)\to (\eta, A\xi).$$

Question Is it true that $A_n$ converges weakly to $A$ if and only if 
$$\forall h, k \in \mathbb{N},\quad (e_h, A_n e_k) \to (e_h, Ae_k)?$$

Indeed, I'm wondering if it is correct to think at weak convergence as convergence of the matrix entries associated to the operators $A_n$ and $A$. 
Thank you.
 A: I think it's not the case. Put $A_n(e_k)=0$ if $k\neq n$ and $A_n(e_n)=ne_n$. Then $A_n$ is a bounded linear operator with norm  equal to $n$, and for all $h,k\in\mathbb N$, $A_ne_k=0$ if $n\geq k+1$, so the property $(e_h, A_ne_k)\to (e_h,Ae_k)$ is satisfied for $A=0$. But we can't have weak convergence, since the principle of uniform boundedness implies that $\sup_n\lVert A_n\rVert$ is finite. 
But we can show that the property you mentioned and $\sup_n\lVert A_n\rVert<\infty$ is equivalent to have weak convergence. 
Indeed, if we have weak convergence then for all $v$, the sequence $\{A_n v\}$ converges weakly to $Av$, so it's bounded and $\sup_n\lVert A_n\rVert<\infty$. 
Conversely, if $\sup_n\lVert A_n\rVert<\infty$ and $(e_h,A_ne_k)\to(e_h,Ae_k)$ for all $h,k\in\mathbb N$, we fix $u,v\in H$, and $\delta>0$. Let $u',v'\in \operatorname{Span}\{e_h,h\in\mathbb N\}$ such that $\lVert u-u'\rVert\leq \delta$ and $\lVert v-v'\rVert\leq \delta$. We have, writing $M:=\sup_{n\in\mathbb N}\lVert A_n\rVert$:
\begin{align*}
|(u,A_nv)-(u,Av)|&\leq |(u,A_nv)-(u',A_nv)|+|(u',A_nv)-(u',A_nv')|\\ &+|(u',A_nv')-(u',Av')|+(u',Av')-(u,Av')|+|(u,Av')-(u,Av)|\\
&\leq \lVert u-u'\Vert M\lVert v\rVert +\lVert u'\rVert M\lVert v-v'\rVert +
|(u',A_nv')-(u',Av')|\\
&+\lVert u'-u\rVert \lVert A v'\rVert+ \lVert u\rVert\lVert A\rVert\lVert v-v'\rVert\\
&\leq \left(M\lVert v\rVert+M\lVert u'\rVert+\lVert Av'\rVert +\lVert u\rVert\lVert A\rVert\right)\delta+|(u',A_nv')-(u',Av')|,
\end{align*}
so for all $\delta >0$, $$\limsup_n|(u,A_nv)-(u,Av)|\leq \left(M(\lVert v\rVert+\lVert u\rVert+\delta)+(\lVert v\rVert+\lVert u\rVert+\delta)\lVert A\rVert\right)\delta,$$
hence $\lim_{n\to\infty}|(u,A_nv)-(u,Av)=0$ for all $u,v\in H$.
A: If it is possible to write $\zeta = \sum_{i=0}^{\infty}a_{k}e_{k}, \eta=\sum_{i=0}^{\infty}b_{k}e_{k}$ with the $a_{k}, b_{k} = const. \forall k \in\mathbb{N}$, the the weak convergence as defined above follows directly from the fact that the direct product on the Hilbert space is linear, that the operator we're dealing with is linear, and that we can write the $\zeta, \eta$ can be written as linear combinations of the o.n.b..
The "if part" doesn't follow, however, since you only regard the diagonal entries of the operator. This goes in the same direction as the person answering the question before me already said. You should easily find plenty of examples that disprove the if part.
