SETUP. It is a standard result that $\text{GL}(n,\Bbb{R})/O(n)$ is isomorphic to the set $P'$ of positive definite $n\times n$ matrices, as manifolds: the basic idea is that $\text{GL}(n,\Bbb{R})$ acts on $P'$ by $g.p = gpg^T$, the RHS interpreted as multiplication of matrices. It is an easy check that this is well defined, and it is transitive by standard linear algebra arguments. Furthermore, the stabilizer of the point $I\in P$ is clearly $O(n)$.
The same argument holds verbatim for $\text{SL}(n,\Bbb{R})/SO(n)$ and $P$, the set of positive definite matrices of determinant $1$, with the same action. Let $G=\text{GL}(n,\Bbb{R})$ or $\text{SL}(n,\Bbb{R})$, $K=O(n)$ or $SO(n)$ and $P$ the pos. def. $n\times n$ matrices, resp. those of determinant $1$.
The action of $G$ on $P$ gives us a map $G\to\text{Diff}(P)$ given by $g\mapsto \psi_g$, where $\psi_g(p) = gpg^T$. Taking the differential of $\psi_g$ and fixing the base point $I$, we get a map of tangent spaces $d\psi_g:T_I P \to T_{gg^T}P$. It is a standard result that for the Cartan decomposition $\frak{g}=k\oplus p$, with $\frak{k}$ the Lie algebra of $K$ and $\frak{p}$ the (edit: vector space of matrices with $\text{exp}(\mathfrak{p})=P$), we have a natural isomorphism $\mathfrak{p}\xrightarrow{\sim}T_I P$, and since all tangent spaces of $P$ are isomorphic, $d\psi_g$ should be able to be interpreted as a Lie algebra endomorphism (in fact an automorphism) of $\mathfrak{p}$.
QUESTION. In short, the action of $G$ on $P$ should descend to an action on $\frak{p}$. The story above is quite general, but I would like to know explicitly what this action is in the case of $G=\text{SL}(n,\Bbb{R})$ and the particular action described above.
MY ATTEMPT. For $G=\text{GL}(n,\Bbb{R})$, I believe I found the answer. Firstly, $P$ is an open submanifold of $\frak{p}$, since (positive definite) $\Leftrightarrow $ (symmetric, $\det>0$, $\text{trace}>0$), and this is an open condition on the set of symmetric matrices $\frak{p}$. Also, $\mathfrak{p}\cong \Bbb{R}^k$ in a natural way, and so it is easy to interpret $\frak{p}$ as the tangent space of $P$. Indeed, as derivations, $X\in \frak{p}$ maps to $D_X|_I$, which is given by $$D_X|_I f = \frac{d}{dt}|_{t=0}f(I+tX).$$ In this formulation, it should also be clear that the isomorphism of the tangent spaces $T_IP\cong T_p P$ is just the identity on $\frak{p}$. Now by definition, $d\psi_g$ is given by $d\psi_g(\nu)f = \nu(f\circ \psi_g)$, so applying to the above, we see that for any $f$, $$d\psi_g(D_X|_I)f = \frac{d}{dt}|_{t=0}f\circ\psi_g(I+tX) = \frac{d}{dt}|_{t=0}f(gg^T+tgXg^T) = D_{gXg^T}|_{gg^T},$$ and so the action of $\text{GL}(n,\Bbb{R})$ descends to $\frak{p}$ in the neatest way possible, $g.X=gXg^T$. One can also check that this is in fact a well defined group action.
THE DIFFICULTY. For $\text{SL}(n,\Bbb{R})$, the above argument fails. Here $\frak{p}$ is the set of symmetric matrices with trace $0$, and so $P$ is not naïvely included in this set. It might still be an open submanifold, but I haven't proven it. Most egregious is the fact that the action above is simply not well defined: you will find plenty of examples of $gXg^T$ with $\text{tr} X=0$ but $\text{tr} (gXg^T)\neq 0$.
IDEAS. Can you modify my proof to work, or can you maybe explicate an embedding $P$ into $\frak{p}$ as to make the action of $\text{SL}(n,\Bbb{R})$ explicit?
Another way may be to bypass the use of $P$ entirely and look at the action of $G$ on $G/K$ by left multiplication, and explicating its differential as an automorphism of $\frak{p}$.