You basically have it. Since $a \in E$, then by hypothesis there is some $a' \in E$ such that $a = a T a' T a$.
Let $y \in E$ be arbitrary. By hypothesis, there exists $x \in E$ such that $y = a T x T a = a T x T (a T a' T a)$. By associativity of $T$, we can say that $y = (a T x T a) T (a' T a) = y T (a' T a)$. In the same way, $y = a T x T a = (a T a' T a) T x T a$; by associativity of $T$, this becomes $y = (a T a') T (a T x T a) = (a T a') T y$.
What we have shown is that for arbitrary $y \in E$, it is true that
$$y = y T (a' T a) = (a T a') T y$$
If $y = a T a'$, then the equality of the first and second terms gives $a T a' = (a T a') T (a' T a)$. If $y = a' T a$, then the equality of the first and third terms gives $a' T a = (a T a') T (a' T a)$. This shows $a' T a = a T a'$, and that this element is an identity of $E$ follows immediately.