Let me start with the excerpt out of Casella & Berger's Statistical Inference (2nd edition, pg. 470) that inspired this question.
Definition 10.1.7 For an estimator $T_n$, if $\lim_{n\to\infty}k_n\mathrm{Var}T_n=\tau^2<\infty$, where $\{k_n\}$ is a sequence of constants, then $\tau^2$ is called the limiting variance or limit of the variances.
Example 10.1.8 (Limiting variances) For the mean $\bar X_n$ of $n$ iid normal observations with $\mathrm EX=\mu$ and $\mathrm{Var}\,X=\sigma^2$, if we take $T_n=\bar X_n$, then $\lim n\mathrm{Var}\bar X_n=\sigma^2$ is the limiting variance of $T_n$.
But a troubling thing happens if, for example, we are instead interested in estimating $1/\mu$ using $1/\bar X_n$. If we now take $T_n=1/\bar X_n$, we find that the variance is $\mathrm{Var}\,T_n=\infty$, so the limit of the variances is infinity. But recall Example 5.5.23, where we said that the "approximate" mean and variance of $1/\bar X_n$ are $$ \mathrm E\left(\frac{1}{\bar X_n}\right)\approx\frac{1}{\mu}, $$ $$ \mathrm{Var}\left(\frac{1}{\bar X_n}\right)\approx\left(\frac{1}{\mu}\right)^4\mathrm{Var}\bar X_n, $$ and thus by this second calculation the variance is $\mathrm{Var}\,T_n\approx\frac{\sigma^2}{n\mu^4}<\infty$.
This example points out the problems of using the limit of the variances as a large sample measure. Of course the exact finite sample variance of $1/\bar X$ is $\infty$. However, if $\mu\neq 0$, the region where $1/\bar X$ gets very large has probability going to $0$. So the second approximation in Example 10.1.8 is more realistic (as well as being much more useful). It is this second approach to calculating large sample variances that we adopt.
Now, I disagree that $\mathrm{Var}\left(1/\bar X_n\right)=\infty$. While I do agree that $\mathrm E\left(1/\bar X_n^2\right)=\infty$, the first negative moment $\mathrm E\left(1/\bar X_n\right)$ is clearly undefined and thus so is the variance. Given that both $\mathrm E\left(1/\bar X_n\right)$ and $\mathrm{Var}\left(1/\bar X_n\right)$ are strictly undefined, I have the following question.
Question: What exactly do the delta method approximations for $\mathrm E\left(1/\bar X_n\right)$ and $\mathrm{Var}\left(1/\bar X_n\right)$ approximate if the moments of $1/\bar X_n$ are undefined?
My thoughts:
Let $\bar X_n\sim\mathcal N(\mu,\sigma^2/n)$ and define for $t\in\Bbb R$ $$ \mathcal H[f_{\bar X_n}](t)=\lim_{\epsilon\to 0^+}\int_{\Bbb R\setminus(t-\epsilon,t+\epsilon)}\frac{f_{\bar X_n}(x)}{x-t}\,\mathrm dx, $$ which is the Hilbert transform of the density function for $\bar X_n$. Since the Hilbert transform commutes with derivatives, i.e. $$ \mathcal H[\partial_t^k u]=\partial_t^k\mathcal H[u], $$ the expression $\mathcal H[f_{\bar X_n}](t)$ represents a sort of generating function for the negative moments of $\bar X_n$, which do not exist in the traditional sense. We define $$ \mathrm E\bar X_n^{-k}:=\frac{1}{(k-1)!}\partial_t^{k-1}\mathcal H[f_{\bar X_n}](t)\Big|_{t=0}. $$ For our particular example $$ \mathcal H[f_{\bar X_n}](t)=\frac{\sqrt 2}{\sigma/\sqrt n}\mathcal D\left(\frac{\mu-t}{\sqrt 2\,\sigma/\sqrt n}\right), $$ with $\mathcal{D}(z)=e^{-z^{2}}\int_{0}^{z}e^{t^{2}}\,\mathrm{d}t$ being Dawson's integral; thus $$ \mathrm E\bar X_n^{-1}=\frac{\sqrt 2}{\sigma/\sqrt n}\mathcal D\left(\frac{\mu}{\sqrt 2\,\sigma/\sqrt n}\right) $$ and $$ \mathrm{Var}\bar X_n^{-1}:=\mathrm E\bar X_n^{-2}-(\mathrm E\bar X_n^{-1})^2 $$ with $$ \mathrm E\bar X_n^{-2}=\frac{\sqrt 2\,\mu}{(\sigma/\sqrt n)^3}\mathcal D\left(\frac{\mu}{\sqrt 2\,\sigma/\sqrt n}\right)-\frac{1}{(\sigma/\sqrt n)^2}. $$ Now, the Dawson integral admits the following asymptotic expansion for $x\to\infty$ $$ \mathcal D(x/\sqrt 2)\sim\frac{1}{\sqrt 2\,x}\sum_{k=0}^\infty (2k-1)!!\frac{1}{x^{2k}}, $$ so letting $n\to\infty$ we have for the first moment $$ \begin{align} \mathrm E\bar X_n^{-1} &\sim\frac{1}{\mu}\sum_{k=0}^\infty (2k-1)!!\left(\frac{\sigma/\sqrt n}{\mu}\right)^{2 k}\\ &=\frac{1}{\mu}+\mathcal O\left(\frac{1}{n}\right), \end{align} $$ which is the first-order delta method approximation for the mean of $1/\bar X_n$. Likewise, for the second moment we find $$ \mathrm E\bar X_n^{-2} \sim\frac{1}{(\sigma/\sqrt n)^2}\sum_{k=1}^\infty (2k-1)!!\left(\frac{\sigma/\sqrt n}{\mu}\right)^{2 k}, $$ which upon combining with the expansion for $\mathrm E\bar X_n^{-1}$ gives the asymptotic approximation for $n\to\infty$ $$ \begin{align} \mathrm{Var}\bar X_n^{-1} &=\frac{1}{\mu^2}+3\frac{(\sigma/\sqrt n)^2}{\mu^4}+\mathcal O\left(\frac{1}{n^2}\right)-\left(\frac{1}{\mu^2}+2\frac{(\sigma/\sqrt n)^2}{\mu^4}+\mathcal O\left(\frac{1}{n^2}\right)\right)\\ &=\frac{(\sigma/\sqrt n)^2}{\mu^4}+\mathcal O\left(\frac{1}{n^2}\right), \end{align} $$ which is the first-order delta method approximation for the variance of $1/\bar X_n$.
So in this context, the delta method moment "approximations" are equal to the first term in the asymptotic expansions for our exact generalized moments in the case $n\to\infty$.
To ask my question from a different perspective: If we are to assign any value to the moments of $1/\bar X_n$, should we instead assign these generalized values for $E\bar X_n^{-k}$ with the delta method moment estimates simply being an approximation of these "exact" moments?
Indeed, the generalized moments seem to provide a more accurate picture of the moments for $1/\bar X_n$ whenever $|\mu/(\sigma/\sqrt n)|\to\infty$ ($n$ does not necessarily have to be large), which implies $f_{\bar X_n}(0)$ is vanishingly small.
Consider the case $\mu=6$, $\sigma=1$, and $n=1$ so that $\bar X_n=X\sim\mathcal N(\mu,\sigma^2)$. I simulated $X$ in MATLAB with the following code:
mu = 6;
sigma = 1;
Y = 1./normrnd(mu,sigma,1e8,1);
EY = sqrt(2)/sigma*dawson(mu/(sqrt(2)*sigma));
[EY 1/mu mean(Y)]
EY2 = sqrt(2)*mu/sigma^3*dawson(mu/(sqrt(2)*sigma))-1/sigma^2;
[EY2 1/mu^2 mean(Y.^2)]
EY3 = (sqrt(2)*(mu^2-sigma^2)*dawson(mu/(sqrt(2)*sigma))-mu*sigma)/(2*sigma^5);
[EY3 1/mu^3 mean(Y.^3)]
VarY = EY2-(EY)^2;
[VarY sigma^2/mu^4 var(Y)]
fY = @(y) normpdf(1./y,mu,sigma)./y.^2;
ax = linspace(0.05,0.35,512);
figure
hold on;
histogram(Y,linspace(0.05,0.35,40),'Normalization','pdf')
plot(ax,fY(ax),'Color',[0 0 0],'LineWidth',2)
Here are the results showing that the generalized moments more accurately reflect the sample statistics.
$$ \begin{array}{cccc} &\text{generalized} &\text{delta} &\text{sample}\\ \mathrm EX^{-1} &0.1718 &0.1667 &0.1718 \\ \mathrm EX^{-2} &0.0305 &0.0278 &0.0305 \\ \mathrm EX^{-3} &0.0056 &0.0046 &0.0056 \\ \mathrm{Var}X^{-1} &0.0010 &0.0008 &0.0010 \end{array} $$