1 Question for Bounty
In the context of an infinite-dimensional vector space, below I present a supposed "proof" – designated by $(*)$ – that
$$ \Omega_{ij} = \overline{\Omega}_{ji} $$
implies that $\Omega$ is Hermetian. I know this proof is false, but I am persistently confused as to what specific step of it is wrong. Since this is my second bounty for this question I should be clearer than the last one: I am not interested in different perspectives/proofs as to why the converse of $(*)$ is true. I am only interested in what specific step of my supposed "proof" (*) is wrong, and why.
2 Hermetian definition
Let us use the definition that $\Omega$ is Hermitian iff
$$ \langle v | \Omega | w \rangle = \overline{\langle w | \Omega | v \rangle} $$
instead of merely just
$$ \langle v | \Omega | w \rangle = \overline{\langle w | \Omega^{\dagger} | v \rangle} $$
for arbitrary vectors $|v\rangle$ and $|w\rangle$.
3 The supposed "proof" (*)
Suppose we assume by hypothesis that $K_{x x'} = \overline{K_{x'x}}$, or in the notation of the textbook that
$$ \left\langle x'\left|K^\dagger\right| x\right\rangle = \left\langle x'|K| x\right\rangle. $$
Then why can't we just say:
$$ \begin{aligned} &\langle g|K| f\rangle \\ =& \int_a^b \int_a^b\langle g \mid x\rangle\left\langle x|K| x^{\prime}\right\rangle\left\langle x' \mid f\right\rangle \, d x \, d x' \\ =&\int_a^b \int_a^b \overline{\left\langle x| g\right\rangle}\overline{\left\langle x' \left|K^\dagger\right| x\right\rangle} \overline{\left\langle f \mid x^{\prime}\right\rangle} \, d x \, d x' \quad(\text {conjugate symmetry}) \\ =&\int_a^b \int_a^b \overline{\left\langle f \mid x^{\prime}\right\rangle} \overline{\left\langle x' \left|K^\dagger\right| x\right\rangle} \overline{\left\langle x| g\right\rangle} \, d x \, d x' \quad(\text {commutativity}) \\ =& \int_a^b \int_a^b \overline{\left\langle f \mid x^{\prime}\right\rangle\left\langle x'|K| x\right\rangle\langle x \mid g\rangle} \, d x \, d x' \quad\left(\text{hypothesis}\right) \\ =&\left(\int_{a}^{b} \int_a^b \left\langle f \mid x^{\prime}\right\rangle\left\langle x^{\prime}|K| x\right\rangle\langle x \mid g\rangle \, d x \, d x' \right)^{*} \quad\left(\text{pulling * out}\right) \\ =&\langle f|K| g\rangle^{*} \end{aligned} $$
What specific step of this proof is wrong?
4 The book's counter-example to (*)
The following argument is from Principles of Quantum Mechanics, and shows why $(*)$ must be wrong (though it doesn't tell us which step of $(*)$ is wrong and why):
5 My attempted refutation of (*)
My original understanding of why (*) was mistaken:
…the supposed "counter-proof" is wrong in its very first step:
$$ \begin{aligned} &\langle g|K| f\rangle \\ =& \int \int\langle g \mid x\rangle\left\langle x|K| x^{\prime}\right\rangle\left\langle x^{\prime} \mid f\right\rangle d x d x^{\prime} \\ \end{aligned} $$
Notice here I was inserting twice the so called "resolution of identity" into this integral:
$$ \int \mid x \rangle \langle x \mid dx $$
…but this presupposes we can construct an orthonormal basis $\{x\}$ in our infinite-dimensional vector space to generate such a "Resolution of Identity". In the finite-dimensional case, we can use the Spectral theorem to always generate such a basis using eigenvectors. Unfortunately, we cannot necessarily do this in the infinite dimensional case (and in general: infinite-dimensional vector spaces don't always have to have orthonormal bases). Thus the "counter-proof" fails in the first step.
But now I am not so sure I am right, since when the author asks under what conditions the following equality holds
$$ \begin{array}{l} \int_{a}^{b} \int_{a}^{b}\langle g \mid x\rangle\left\langle x|K| x^{\prime}\right\rangle\left\langle x^{\prime} \mid f\right\rangle d x d x^{\prime} \\ \quad \stackrel{?}{=}\left(\int_{a}^{b} \int_{a}^{b}\langle f \mid x\rangle\left\langle x|K| x^{\prime}\right\rangle\left\langle x^{\prime} \mid g\right\rangle d x d x^{\prime}\right) \end{array} $$
he is assuming (in the left-hand side of this equation) that we can already plug in a resolution of identity (against, presumably, the orthonormal basis of eigenvectors generated by the Spectral Theorem). But under this assumption, why can't we just take the left-hand side of this equation
$$ \int_{a}^{b} \int_{a}^{b}\langle g \mid x\rangle\left\langle x|K| x^{\prime}\right\rangle\left\langle x^{\prime} \mid f\right\rangle d x d x^{\prime} $$
and proceed forward using the steps from $(*)$ to obtain that the equality holds in all cases?