Note that $A$ is positive semidefinite is not positive definite. In other words, $A$ is positive semidefinite and singular.
First, note that if all three $d_{ii}$ are positive, then $A + D$ will necessarily fail to be positive semidefinite.
So, we must suppose that at least on of these is zero. Without loss of generality, suppose that $d_{33} = 0$. If both $d_{11},d_{22}$ are non-zero, then we find that $A + D$ can only be positive semidefinite if $A$ is diagonal with $a_{33} = 0$. In this case, this only occurs when $A = 0$.
For the remaining case, we must suppose that one of $d_{11},d_{22}$ are zero. Without loss of generality, suppose that $d_{22} = 0$. In other words, we are looking for the maximal value of $d_{11}$ for which
$$
A - \pmatrix{d_{11} & 0 & 0\\0 &0 &0\\0 &0&0}
$$
is positive semidefinite. As is shown here, for instance, this matrix will be positive definite for $d_{11} \leq 1/A^+_{11}$, where $A^+_{11}$ denotes the $1,1$ entry of the Moore-Penrose pseudoinverse $A^+$ of $A$.
As we established above, it is sufficient to consider the case in which at most one of the $d_{ii}$ are non-zero, since $A + D$ will fail to be positive semidefinite otherwise. We compute (via matlab)
$$
A^+ = \left(\begin{array}{ccc} \frac{4\,b_{1}+b_{2}+b_{3}}{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)} & -\frac{2\,b_{1}+2\,b_{2}-b_{3}}{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)} & -\frac{2\,b_{1}-b_{2}+2\,b_{3}}{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)}\\ -\frac{2\,b_{1}+2\,b_{2}-b_{3}}{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)} & \frac{b_{1}+4\,b_{2}+b_{3}}{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)} & -\frac{2\,b_{2}-b_{1}+2\,b_{3}}{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)}\\ -\frac{2\,b_{1}-b_{2}+2\,b_{3}}{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)} & -\frac{2\,b_{2}-b_{1}+2\,b_{3}}{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)} & \frac{b_{1}+b_{2}+4\,b_{3}}{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)} \end{array}\right)
\\ =
\frac{1}{9(b_1b_2 + b_1 b_3 + b_2 b_3)}\sum_{i=1}^3b_i\,(-2e_i + e_{i+1} + e_{i+2})(-2e_i + e_{i+1} + e_{i+2})^T,
$$
where in the above we take $b_{1} = a_{23}, b_2 = a_{13},b_3 = a_{12}$. In the second line, $e_i$ denotes the $i$th standard basis vector and addition in the indices is modulo $3$.
We see then, for instance, that the maximal $d_{11}$ for which $A + D$ is positive semidefinite is given by
$$
d_{11} = \frac{9\,\left(b_{1}\,b_{2}+b_{1}\,b_{3}+b_{2}\,b_{3}\right)}{4\,b_{1}+b_{2}+b_{3}}.
$$
Similar conditions hold for $d_{22},d_{33}$.