As others have said, one way to look at why the real and imaginary parts of a complex differentiable function are not independent is because the derivative of such a function is required to be a complex number.
Geometrically complex numbers represent combinations of rotations and scaling, and if you start modifying the real part independently of the imaginary part, the derivative (which still exists as a vector function) may no longer represent a rotation-scaling combination and therefore cannot be written as a complex number, and therefore the function is not complex differentiable at that point.
Complex analysis can be very geometrical and intuitive. As an aside I highly recommend the book Visual Complex Analysis by Tristan Needham.
So let’s try an example. Consider the function $f(z) = z^2$. This is a complex differentiable function which sends the complex plane $\mathbb{C}$ onto itself with a twist. If we consider the point $p=i$, it’s clear that $f$ sends $p$ to $f(p) = -1$:

Now let’s consider a small piece of the complex plane around $i$ (here shown in blue). I’m going to call this a neighbourhood. Since $f$ is continuous it sends this neighbourhood of $i$ to a (possibly deformed) neighbourhood of $f(i)$:

Questions about whether $f$ is differentiable, or complex differentiable amount to how $f$ deforms this blue blob. If we want $f$ to be just regular differentiable (not complex differentiable) then $f$ has to transform this blob using a linear transformation - any old linear transformation will do. This is a stronger condition than simple continuity but it’s not that strong (relatively speaking). But if we want it to be complex differentiable (a requirement for being complex analytical), then it has to transform this blob using only a rotation and a scaling transformation - this is a very strong condition.
So let’s take a closer look at this. The derivative of $f$ is $f’(z) = 2z$, which at $p = i$ gives us $f’(p) = 2i$.
What does it mean to say that the derivative of $f$ at $p$ is $2i$ ?
The derivative at $p$ describes how the blue blob around $p$ is sent to a blue blob around $f(p)$. the complex number $i$ represents a 90 degree counter-clockwise rotation, and so in this case we’re saying that $f$ deforms the blob around $p$ by rotating it by 90 degrees and scaling it by 2 (zooming in so everything is twice as big). It looks something like this (where we zoomed in really really close to $p$ on the left and $f(p) = -1$ on the right):

So far so good. But why can’t we change the real and imaginary parts independently?
To get an intuitive understanding of this, and to make the real and imaginary parts more visible, let’s look at $f$ not as a complex function, but as a function of the euclidean plane $\mathbb{R}^2$ into itself. It’s important to understand that complex numbers can be viewed as an “extra” feature that exists on top of the regular 2D euclidean plane. So any time you have a complex function, you also have a regular 2D function and it’s useful to be able to jump between the two representations. In our case If we write:
$$z = x + i y$$
Then we can write $f$ (still as a complex function):
$f(x + iy) = (x + iy)^2 = x^2 + 2i xy - y^2 = (x^2 - y^2) + 2 xy i$
So as a function of vectors from $\mathbb{R}^2$ to $\mathbb{R}^2$ $f$ can be written as:
$f(\begin{bmatrix}x\\y\end{bmatrix}) = \begin{bmatrix}x^2 - y^2\\2xy\end{bmatrix}$
Viewed as $\mathbb{R}^2$ $i$ is $\begin{bmatrix}0\\1\end{bmatrix}$ and we can confirm that $f(\begin{bmatrix}0\\1\end{bmatrix}) = \begin{bmatrix}-1\\0\end{bmatrix}$ which corresponds to $-1$ in the complex plane.
Now what is the derivative of f in this picture? It’s the jacobian matrix:
$Df_{(x,y)} = \begin{bmatrix}\frac{\partial f_x}{\partial x}&&\frac{\partial f_x}{\partial y}\\ \frac{\partial f_y}{\partial x}&&\frac{\partial f_y}{\partial y}\end{bmatrix} = \begin{bmatrix}2x&&-2y\\2y&&2x\end{bmatrix}$
This is like the derivative in 1D in that it tells us how $f$ changes near a point, but instead of a number it’s a matrix - or well, it’s a formula for a matrix at any given point $(x, y)$. We agreed that $i$ corresponds to $x = 0, y= 1$ so at this point we get this specific matrix
$Df_{(0,1)} = \begin{bmatrix}0&&-2\\2&&0\end{bmatrix} = 2 \begin{bmatrix}0&&-1\\1&&0\end{bmatrix}$
This matrix tells us how the blue blob around $\begin{bmatrix}0\\1\end{bmatrix}$ is transformed into the blue blob around $\begin{bmatrix}-1\\0\end{bmatrix}$.
Note that the matrix
$\begin{bmatrix}0&&-1\\1&&0\end{bmatrix}$
Represents a 90 degree rotation, so again we see that $f$ transforms the blob around $p$ by rotating by 90 deg and scaling by a factor of 2 (this matrix can be seen as the matrix version of the imaginary number i). And in fact it had better be the case, because $f$ is the same function! We’re just writing it down in two equivalent ways, and if they showed us two different behaviours we’d be in trouble.
So now let’s try modifying the real part and see where we lose complex differentiability. Suppose we modify the real part from $2xy$ to $xy$ and we call this new function $g$:
$g(x + iy) = (x^2 - y^2) + i (xy)$
Note that this is a perfectly valid function from the complex plane to itself. It’s not complex differentiable (as we’ll see in a moment), but it does map $\mathbb{C}$ to $\mathbb{C}$. Now let’s forget the “extra” complex “structure” of $g$ and write it as a function of $\mathbb{R}^2->\mathbb{R}^2$:
$g(\begin{bmatrix}x\\y\end{bmatrix}) = \begin{bmatrix}x^2 - y^2\\xy\end{bmatrix}$
The derivative is:
$Dg_{(x,y)} = \begin{bmatrix}2x&&y\\-2y&&x\end{bmatrix}$
And at $\begin{bmatrix}0\\1\end{bmatrix}$:
$Dg_{(0,1)} = \begin{bmatrix}0&&1\\-2&&0\end{bmatrix}$
So far so good. Again, note that there is nothing wrong with this derivative - g is differentiable as function from $\mathbb{R}^2$ to $\mathbb{R}^2$. Now let's try to jump back into the complex picture and write this derivative as a complex number. To help us let's visualize what this matrix does around $p$:

Yikes, we're stuck! See how one axis is elongated but the other isn’t? This cannot be represented as a complex number - it cannot be achieved by a rotation followed by scaling because rotating and scaling always affect both axes equally (imagine rotating and scaling a photo in photoshop, but where you're not allowed to change the height without changing the width or vice-versa). This means the derivative of $g$ does not correspond to a complex number. So $g$ is not complex-differentiable at this point - we started with a complex differentiable function, modified just the imaginary part, and we "broke" the complex differentiability, which shows some form of dependence between the real and imaginary parts.
This is a very specific example, but the same intuition applies generally. Since locally (when we zoom in very close to a point) a complex differentiable function is only allowed to rotate and scale it places strong constraints on the real and imaginary parts. Of course you could have seen that with the Cuachy-Riemman equations more quickly, but that skips a lot of the intuitive geometry. And actually a lot of crazy-sounding phenomena in complex analysis can be traced back to geometric explanations such as this one.