$dxdy=rdrd\theta$ I'm trying to show that $dx\,dy=r\,dr\,d\theta$ using differentials.
$x=r\cos(\theta)$ and $y=r\sin(\theta)$
thus $dx=\cos(\theta)dr-r\sin(\theta)d\theta$ and $dy=\sin(\theta)dr+r\cos(\theta)d\theta$
$\begin{align}dx\,dy&=(\cos(\theta)dr-r\sin(\theta)d\theta)(\sin(\theta)dr+r\cos(\theta)d\theta)\\&
=\cos(\theta)\sin(\theta)
dr^2+r\cos^2(\theta)drd\theta-r\sin^2(\theta)d\theta dr-r^2\cos(\theta)\sin(\theta)d\theta^2\\&=\cos(\theta)\sin(\theta)
dr^2-r^2\cos(\theta)\sin(\theta)d\theta^2+rdrd\theta(1-\sin(\theta)^2-\sin(\theta)^2)\end{align}$
If my calculations are correct, $\cos(\theta)\sin(\theta)
dr^2-r^2\cos(\theta)\sin(\theta)d\theta^2-2 \sin(\theta)^2rdrd\theta=0$ but how am I suppose to show that?
 A: $drdr$ and $d\theta d\theta$ are both zero, so forget about them. Also, $drd\theta=-d\theta dr,$ and you did not account for this at one point. If you make these changes, you'll have $$dxdy=r(\sin^2\theta+\cos^2\theta)drd\theta=rdrd\theta.$$
I'm abusing notation a bit, as $drd\theta$ should actually be written as $dr\wedge d\theta$, where $\wedge$ denotes the wedge product of the differential forms $dr$ and $d\theta$ (see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Differential_form), which is alternating by construction, so the wedge of the same form twice gives $0$. See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Exterior_algebra#Formal_definitions_and_algebraic_properties for more details.
A: You are missing the important point on the difference between the partition elements in Cartesian and Polar systems. 
While $dxdy$ is the area of a rectangle $rdrd\theta $ is the area of the curved section between circles of radii $r$ and $r+dr$ and the central angle of $d\theta$ 
The so called Jacobian gives you the multiplier of your transformation. The Jacobian is the determinant of a matrix whose terms are partial derivatives of $x$ and $y$ with respect to $r$ and $\theta$ 
