Topological way to show , if $X$ finite than there is no bijection to $X\setminus{x}$ while $x\in X$ I got the Idea from this question: <>

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I got the idea to define a finite set like this:
We call a set $A$ finite if the topological space $(A,T)$ is hausdorff iff $T$ is the discrete topology. If my proof isn't wrong this one is equivalent to the normal defintion, that a set is finite if there is a bijection to $\{1,\dots,n\}$ for a $n\in \mathbb{N}$.
I never listen to any Topology-lecture (i didn't take a topology course) so i don't know if there is a problem in it, and I don't think I am able to do the proof on my own so I ask for some help. 
My basic Idea was, that  any bijection between discrete finite topological spaces is a homoeomorphism. Now we make a simplicial complex out of the sets (taking the elements of A as 0-skeleton and between two 0-cells a 1-cell) and perhabs we can show, that the homotopie groups aren't equal. (since the 0th is just a set we have to take a higher one). So for example, we can show that the free groups of $n$ and $n-1$ generators aren't the same.
Does anyone got an idea for this, or won't there be a way without cardinality at all. 
 A: I'm not completely sure what your question is.  I think that at least part of what you are asking is: "Is it true that a set $X$ is finite $\iff$ the only Hausdorff topology on $X$ is the discrete topology?"  
I didn't understand your proposal for how to prove this, but it is in fact true.  
If $\tau$ is a Hausdorff topology on a finite set $X$, then since Hausdorff implies separated (or "$T_1$"), points are closed.  Since finite unions of closed sets are closed, every subset is closed, hence every subset is open and the topology is discrete.
If $X$ is infinite, then there is an injection $\iota$ from the set $S = \{0\} \cup \{ \frac{1}{n} \ | \ n \in \mathbb{Z}^+\}$ to $X$.  Let $X_1$ be the image of $\iota$ and let 
$X_2 = X \setminus X_1$.  We topologize $X_1$ by saying that a subset $Y \subset X_1$ is open iff $\iota^{-1}(Y)$ is open in $S$, with its natural topology as a subset of $\mathbb{R}$.  Thus $X_1$ is not discrete: $\{ \iota(0) \}$ is not open.  On $X_2$ we put the discrete topology.  Finally we endow $X$ with the topology it gets as the disjoint union "or coproduct" of $X_1$ and $X_2$.  In this case, this amounts to saying that a subset $Y$ of $X$ is open iff $Y \cap X_1$ is open in $X_1$.  This is a non-discrete Hausdorff topology on $X$.  
A: Let $X$ be a topological space with at least three different points and $x \in X$. Suppose that the only Hausdorff topology on $X$ is the discrete one. If there exists a bijection $f : X \to X \backslash \{x\}$, then $f$ is a homeomorphism for discrete topologies. Now take the topology on $X$ defined by $\mathcal{T}=\{ O \subset X : O \subset (X\backslash \{x\}) \ \text{or} \ O \cap (X\backslash \{x\} )\neq \emptyset \}$. But $\mathcal{T}$ is a Hausdorff non discrete (since $\{x\} \notin \mathcal{T}$) topology on $X$: a contradiction.
