Operator norm (induced $2$-norm) of a Kronecker tensor Let $A \in \mathcal M(n \times n; \mathbb R)$ with $\rho(A) < 1$. Then we know $I \otimes I - A^T \otimes A^T$ is invertible where $\otimes$ denotes kronecker product. Let $\text{vec}$ denote the vectorization operation and $\mathcal T = (I \otimes I - A^T \otimes A^T)^{-1} : \mathbb R^{n^2} \to \mathbb R^{n^2}$. The operator norm of $\mathcal T$ is given by
\begin{align*}
  \|\mathcal T\|_2 = \sup_{\|x\|_2=1} \|\mathcal Tx\|_2,
\end{align*}
where $x \in \mathbb R^{n^2}$. Let $\text{mat}$ denote the inverse operation of $\text{vec}$, i.e., stacking the elements into a matrix. Let $X = \text{mat}(x)$ where $X \in \mathcal M(n \times n)$. We note $\mathcal Tx$ is exactly the vectorization of $Y$ where $Y$ is the unique solution of
\begin{align}
\label{eq:1}
\tag{$\star$}
A^T Y A + X = Y.
\end{align}
The assumption on $A$ guarantees a unique solution.
My question is whether we can take $X$ to be symmetric to determine the operator norm of $\mathcal T$. That is, does the following hold
\begin{align*}
\|\mathcal T\|_2 = \sup \{\|Y\|_F: X \in \mathbb S_n, \|X\|_F=1\},
\end{align*}
where $Y$ is the solution to \eqref{eq:1} and $\mathbb S_n$ denotes the set of symmetric matrices. If we let $c = \sup \{\|Y\|_F: X \in \mathbb S_n, \|X\|_F=1\}$, clearly $c \le \|\mathcal T\|_2$. Will the other way hold? $\mathcal T$ seems to have nice structure and it makes me wonder whether we can just consider supremum over this proper subset.

BOUNTY EDIT:
This question has been a while. Loup Blanc has an excellent answer. I thought I understood his edit 2 before but actually it was misunderstanding. Now I am starting a bounty hoping someone (maybe loup himeself) could elaborate his Edit 2.
 A: We work over $\mathbb{R}$ and not over $\mathbb{C}$. 
Let $A\in M_n(\mathbb{R})$, $Z=\{Y\in M_n;g(Y)=tr((Y-A^TYA)^T(Y-A^TYA))-1=0\}$ and $f(Y)=tr(Y^TY)$. Note that $Z$ is a compact set as a reciprocal image of a closed ball by a homeomorphism. Here we stack the matrices row by row and we put $y=Vec(Y)$.
$\textbf{Proposition}$. If $(I-A\otimes A)(I-A^T\otimes A^T)$ has distinct eigenvalues, then $Max_{Y\in Z} tr(Y^TY)$ is reached for some symmetric (or skew-symmetric) matrix.
$\textbf{Proof}$. Clearly, the $\max$ is reached for some $Y\in Z$; necessarily, such a matrix satisfies the Lagrange condition: $Df_Y+\lambda Dg_Y=0$, that is, for every $H\in M_n$,
$tr(H^TY+\lambda (H-A^THA)^T(Y-A^TYA))=tr(H^TY+\lambda (H^T-A^TH^TA)(Y-A^TYA))=0$, that is equivalent to
$(*)$ $Y+\lambda(Y-A^TYA-A(Y-A^TYA)A^T)=0$,
or $y+\lambda(I-A^T\otimes A^T-A\otimes A+AA^T\otimes AA^T)y=0$,
or ($y\not=0$ implies that $\lambda\not= 0$)), equivalent to $\phi(y)=(I-A\otimes A)(I-A^T\otimes A^T)y=-\dfrac{1}{\lambda}y$. 
Finally, $y$ is an eigenvector of $\phi$ associated to the eigenvalue $-\dfrac{1}{\lambda}$. -Note that $\phi$ is an invertible matrix in the form $UU^T$, and, consequently, is symmetric $>0$-
Here $\phi$ has distinct eigenvalues and, therefore, its eigenspaces $E_{-1/\lambda}$ have dimension $1$.
For a fixed $\lambda$, $y$ is defined up to a factor; since its length is defined by the condition $||(I-A^T\otimes A^T)y||_F=1$, $y$ (then $Y$) is defined up to a signum.
Since $Y$ is a solution of $(*)$, $Y^T$ is also a solution with same norm. Thus $Y^T=\pm Y$, that is, $Y$ is symmetric or skew-symmetric.  $\square$
EDIT 1. We obtain $n^2$ candidates $(y_i)$ associated to the $n^2$ distinct eigenvalues $(-1/\lambda_i)$ and, moreover, these vectors are orthogonal ($y_i^Ty_j=0,i\not= j$); then the $n^2$ sym (or skew-sym) matrices $(Y_i)$ form an  orthogonal basis of $M_{n^2}$ ($tr(Y_i^TY_j)=0,i\not= j$). We deduce that there are exactly $n^2(n^2-1)/2$ skew-sym $(Y_i)$ and exactly $n^2(n^2+1)/2$ sym $(Y_i)$.
** iris2017 , thanks for the bonus.
EDIT 2. I think that the $\max$ is always (for any $A$) obtained for at least one symmetric  matrix $Y$ (that is, when $\phi$ has multiple eigenvalues, the $\max$ may be also reached by matrices $Y$ s.t. $Y^T\not= \pm Y$). For example, when $n=3$ and $A$ is skew-symmetric, the $\max$ may be reached by a matrix that is neither sym nor skew-sym; yet the $\max$ is also reached by a sym. matrix.
