Let $R$ be a subring of $S$ containing $1$. $N$ an $R$-module. Then the construction of $S \otimes _R N$ (D&F p360) is by quotienting the free abelian group $(S \times N)^{ab}$ by the group $H$ with generating elements \begin{align*} & (s_1+s_2,n)-(s_1,n) -(s_2,n), \\ & (s,n_1+n_2) - (s,n_1) - (s,n_2), \\ & (sr,n) - s,rn). \quad \quad \quad \quad \quad \quad \quad (*) \end{align*} Let $s \otimes n$ be coset of $(s,n)$, then we can define left $S-$module by $$s ( \sum _{finite} s_i \otimes n_i ) = \sum_{finite} (ss_i) \otimes n_i . $$
To show the above left action is well defined, Dummit&Foote argues we also quotient out \begin{align*} &(s'(s_1+s_2),n)-(s's_1,n) -(s's_2,n), \\ &(s's,n_1+n_2) - (s's,n_1) - (s's,n_2), \\ & (s'(sr),n) - s's,rn). \quad \quad \quad \quad \quad \quad \quad (**) \end{align*} so
$\sum s_i \otimes n_i - \sum s_i' \otimes n_i' = \bar{0} \Rightarrow \sum ss_i \otimes n_i - \sum ss_i' \otimes n_i' = \bar{0}.$
I don't follow the boxed line. Yes, the LHS can be written as sums of elements of $H$, then we can replace those with $s$ within - but I couldn't write this out rigorously.
We have $LHS = \sum n_i h_i \in H$, $n_i \in \mathbb{Z}$, $h_i$ are elements of form $(*)$. Hence $\sum n_i h'_i \in H$ where $h'_i$ are elements of form $(**)$. Then why can we deduce $\sum n_i h'_i = RHS$ ? Here $LHS$ and $RHS$ denote left and right side of implication.