Given $R=\{(7, 1), (9, 8), (2, 6), (0, 6), (3, 9), (4, 6), (1, 8), (6, 7), (5, 6)\}$, we want first extend it to be transitive, because that's the biggest one.
What we do is we take the first pair $(7,1)$, compare it to every pair that comes after it, and see if transitivity has anything to say. What that means is we look for pairs that have $1$ as first element of $7$ as second element. There are two of those: $(1, 8)$ and $(6, 7)$. That means you need to add $(7, 8)$ and $(6, 1)$. Put them at the end.
We now have $\{(7, 1), (9, 8), (2, 6), (0, 6), (3, 9), (4, 6), (1, 8), (6, 7), (5, 6), (7,8), (6,1)\}$, and we've taken care of the first pair. Now take the second pair, $(9,8)$ and do the same thing (looking only at pairs that come after it, since we've already compared it to $(7,1)$). This time we see that we need to add $(3, 8)$, so we do that. Keep going, going until you get to the end, and you've added the bare minimum to make $R'$ transitive.
Then to make it reflexive, we need to add all pairs $(n, n)$, so we do that. Lastly, you need to check that you haven't made it non-anti-symmetric, and you're done.
Edit: One way of transitivifying that doesn't feel as much like brute force (but really is the same thing) would be to draw. Take a piece of paper, or a blackboard, or whatever your preferred medium is, and write all numbers from $0$ to $9$. Then take each pair $(i,j)$ and draw an arrow from $i$ to $j$. Once you've done that for all the pairs, can take any number that has both an arrow $a$ pointing to it and an arrow pointing $b$ away from it. Now draw an arrow pointing from the origin of $a$ to the target of $b$, if there isn't one there already. Keep doing this until all such arrows have been drawn. Now every arrow represents a pair that needs to be in $R'$ for it to be transitive.
A few pointers on how to do this more easily: Don't draw the numbers randomly or in order or in a circle at the start. Rather, look at the pairs that are in $R$ and take some hints from them, like start by drawing $1$ above $7$ with some room between them. Draw $9$ below $8$. Draw $8$ above $1$. This way, most arrows will be pointing upwards, and it's easier to follow them and see whether you've missed any.