Foremost, this relation you defined is not transitive because of the following:
$2 \sim 1, 1 \sim 2$, but $2$ is not equivalent to $2$, which should be the case under transitivity.
Secondly, every relation that is symmetric and transitive is not necessarily reflexive. Generally the (false) proof proceeds as follows:
$a\sim b$, so then by symmetry $b\sim a$, then by transitivity, $a \sim a$.
However, this argument is based on the fact that $\exists \, b $ such that $a\sim b$, which does not have to be the case.
Consider the relation: $A = \{1, 2, 3\}, R = \{(1,2), (2, 1), (1, 1), (2, 2)\}$.
It is symmetric and transitive but not reflexive. Note that there is no such element $b$ where $3 \sim b$.