So the difference quotient is defined as:
$$\lim \limits_{h \to 0} \frac{f(x+h)-f(x)}{h}$$
So if we take a function such as $f(x)=x^2$ and go through the simplification, we get
$$\lim \limits_{h \to 0} 2x+h $$
We say $h$ is zero, and that makes sense because it becomes negligible. But here's what I don't understand: $\delta$-$\epsilon$ says (in casual terms) we can make $h$ as close as we want to zero and $2x+h$ will be sufficiently close to $2x$. But isn't one of the constraints of delta epsilon that $|\delta - c| > 0$? So how can we say $h$ is exactly zero if this constraint must be met? In other words, we always say the value of the limit at the point of interest does not necessarily equal the value of the function - but here it seems like we're saying that they are by making $h$ exactly zero, not just sufficiently close. Why can we do this?