This answer isn't of the form you asked for, but I'm posting it because it's been very helpful to me. I apologize if this is the sort of answer you're trying to avoid.
Let's start with a very specific situation. Let $G$ be the isometry group of the plane $E$. If you pick a point $x$, the rotations around $x$ form a subgroup $G_x$ of $G$. If you pick two different points $x$ and $y$, you get two subgroups $G_x$ and $G_y$. These subgroups are different, but they don't feel really different, because you can turn one into the other just by changing your point of view: if you shift the plane by an isometry that puts $x$ where $y$ used to be, then $G_x$ becomes the subgroup $G_y$ used to be. In other words, $G_x$ and $G_y$ aren't really different because there's an isometry $g \in G$ that makes the diagram
$$\require{AMScd}
\begin{CD}
E @>G_x>> E \\
@VgVV @VVgV \\
E @>>G_y> E
\end{CD}$$
commute. (In this diagram, each arrow stands for a whole set of isometries, with $E \overset{g}{\longrightarrow} E$ denoting the singleton $\{g\}$, and composing arrows means composing all pairs of isometries.)
Now, to be completely general, think of any group $G$ as a group of "allowed symmetries" of some object—in other words, a subgroup of $\operatorname{Aut} X$ for some object $X$. (This is completely general because we can take $X$ to be $G$ itself with the left multiplication action. Perhaps more satisfyingly, we can make $X$ a graph if $G$ is finite, a tree if $G$ is free, an effective Klein geometry if $G$ is a suitable Lie group...)
Once again, even if two subgroups of $G$ are different, they don't feel really different if you can turn one into the other just by looking at $X$ from a different point of view. In other words, two subgroups $H, \tilde{H} < G$ aren't really different if there's an allowed symmetry $g \in G$ of $X$ that makes the diagram
$$\require{AMScd}
\begin{CD}
X @>H>> X \\
@VgVV @VVgV \\
X @>>\tilde{H}> X
\end{CD}$$
commute. This, of course, is the definition of conjugacy.
This point of view, by the way, is my favorite motivation for the idea of normality: a normal subgroup is a class of symmetries that doesn't depend on your point of view. If you shift the plane by an isometry, for example, your notion of what counts as a horizontal translation might change, but your notion of what counts as a translation won't. Horizontal translations form a non-normal subgroup, while translations form a normal subgroup.