If you look at the Wikipedia page for partially ordered sets, you will see that all we need to do is define a relation over the set that satisfies three conditions: reflexity, transitivity, antisymmetry. From this, we get that equality is in fact a partial order. That is, suppose we have a set $X$. Then the relation $\{(a, a) \;|\; a \in X\}$ is a partial order. Let's write $x \sim y$ whenever $(x, y) \in R$. Now, for any $X$ at all we can define this relation, which is a partial order, but it clearly does not have the property of directedness that you mention in your question, as long as $X$ has at least two distinct elements. To see why, just choose any two distinct elements, call them $x, y$. Then if there was some $z$ such that $x \sim z$ and $y \sim z$, then by the very definition of $R$, we'd have $x = z = y$, contradicting the distinctness of $x$ and $y$.