Finally i solved this problem , and thought it would be helpful for someone who needs a well explained answer , so here it goes.....
Understand the language of question:
"How much should she pay to play if the game is fair?" This simply means that on the average there should be no profit no loss in playing the game , in other words if the lady plays the game n times (n is very large no ) her money spent on the game should be equal to 0.
Solving the problem:
let z = " money paid by the lady "
and let X is a random variable , which is the total money spent on one game.
so now support of X (all the values that x can take) = (z-3), (z-5), z
(z-3) when she draws jack or queen
(z-5) when she draws ace or king
z when she draws some other card
now find probability of all these values of X
P(z-3) = 2/13 , since there are 8 cards for jack and queen which gives probability = 8/52 = 2/13
p(z-5)= 2/13 since there are 8 cards for ace and king which gives probability = 8/52 = 2/13
p(z) = 9/13 since there is 36 other cards than ace, king, queen and jack
now we find expected value of X and set it equal to 0 to find value of z
E(X) = (z-3)*2/13 + (z-5)*2/13 + z*9/13 = 0
2z-6 +2z -10 + 9z = 0
13z= 16
z=1.23