Consider the following image:

The axioms are, as Stephen Douglas Allen said: The first in a line of logic, just look at the picture. It means that they are assumptions made beforehand, and theorems are consequences of these assumptions (See Thm, 1.1) and consequences of other theorems (See Thm, 3.2) or consequences of theorems and axioms (See Thm, 2.1). That is, these consequences can be shown (proved) to be true under the assumption of those axioms. Mathematics works under an epistemological system which does not allow infinite regresses. That means that you can take a theorem that is far away from the axioms, and then ask why it is true but it will eventually reach a proposition that answer all the chain that you've been asking, namely the axiom and from this point (grossly) no further questions can be asked.
You're right to think that any definiton can be an axiom (it's important to know what you mean with definition. Some definitions could work as axioms, some of them are just describing the existence of some objects. Axioms are usually interactions between some of the objects but sometimes these interactions are simply statements about their existence). Let's think a little about how axiomatization is done: Why would you use an arbitrary definition as an axiom? Perhaps, there are deeper ideas that are more primitive than these definitions and the object of these definitions can be built via these more primitive ideas, take for example set theory. It's believed that all mathematics can be built with it. Set theory has it's very primitive ideas in which all other mathematical ideas can be done.
But what I wrote is from a global standpoint. I'm talking about all mathematical ideas and another idea that can be used to write all these mathematical ideas. Usually there is also a local standpoint: If you read some analysis books, you'll see that, for example, commutativity and associativity are axioms in some of these books, but they actually can be proved with more primitive ideas. If you construct the real numbers from the very beginning, each of those axioms are actually theorems (if you look from the global standpoint). Then, for example, it's possible that what I'm calling as theorems $1,1; 1,2; 2,1$ are seen by another person as axioms. The reason of why they do that seems to be pragmatical: If you assume that some theorems are axioms, then you don't need to bother proving them. I took a long course on the construction of numbers, from $\Bbb{N}$ to $\Bbb{Z}$ to $\Bbb{Q}$ to $\Bbb{R}$ and then, for the matter of a course in analysis, it's usually irrelevant to prove these most basic ideas.
In the work of axiomatization, there is always this idea of local vs. global, perhaps the mathematical structures you're seeing now are built via some axioms but It's also possible that these axioms are actually consequences of more primitive ideas.