Reading your situation, I can offer some advice from someone who is 33 years old and currently self-studying Apostol. I cannot speak to Spivak directly, but I imagine the things I have to say about Apostol will apply more or less equally to Spivak.
Apostol is a wonderful book, but would not be my choice as an introduction to either calculus or proof-based mathematics. My background differs somewhat from yours in that I took a full year of Calculus in high school, and have an engineering degree so took classes on ODE, linear algebra, and statistics (amongst some other courses that made significant use of mathematical techniques). That was years ago, so I've forgotten many things, but with that background I find Apostol challenging at times, and it certainly requires a lot of motivation to keep moving forward. Without someone to guide you, there are lots of places in a rigorous treatment of Calculus to get hopelessly confused. If you look at my profile you can see the questions (an expanding list) that I have asked from problems in Apostol to get a flavor for the sorts of exercises that the book contains. I think it would be very difficult to undertake the book without a good background in proving mathematical statements rigorously, and a strong notion of the ideas of Calculus. The theorems and definitions would just be too obtuse if you didn't already understand what was going. Apostol is not the place to learn these things.
That said, I would echo one of the comments that there is math to learn other than Calculus. Not to say Calculus shouldn't be on your agenda, just that there are beautiful and accessible areas of math that might appeal to you and are better for developing mathematical technique. I strongly recommend looking into books on elementary number theory (preferably something with complete solutions) or discrete math. These areas are completely accessible to you right now, provide a forum in which to apply some of the basic mathematical techniques you are learning, will really help you develop your skills with manipulating equations and "thinking mathematically," and will start you on the road to understanding the difference between solving equations at the algebra level and writing proofs.
As for actual book recommendations, a very straightforward number theory book with solutions is Jones & Jones. It's not a great book at all, but it has full solutions and is targeted at undergraduates. A very ambitious book might be Concrete Mathematics, much of which will be too advanced at the moment, but is a book that can grow with you. It contains wonderful discussions of very concrete (as the title might suggest) problems, and methods for working with sums and equations which are invaluable as you gain maturity.
Hope that helps.
Added: Also since you seem to be interested in mathematics generally, I would highly recommend taking the time to read some math history and "popular" math books. Math has a wonderfully rich and entertaining history. These can give great insight into problems that have been pivotal to the development of mathematics, and give glimpses to the sorts of things mathematicians are interested in. Also, many "pop" math books are about theorems or concepts that have fascinated mathematically minded people for centuries, so they are likely to fascinate you. Finally, they can be read right now while you are still developing your basic math skills, and can provide lots of motivation and inspiration.
Specific books I'd recommend are E.T. Bell's "Men of Mathematics" for math history, some of recent books on the Riemann hypothesis are good reads about an open problem (du Sautoy, The Music of the Primes and Derbyshire's "Prime Obsession" were both good), and I found "Symmetry and the Monster" by Ronan really inspiring (if you want to get a glimpse of what "modern" algebra is about).