Show that a linear operator $T: H \to H$ is self adjoint if and only if $\langle Tx, x \rangle \in \Bbb R\ \forall x \in H$. You may use that the equality that for all $x,y \in H$
$4\langle T(x),y \rangle = \langle T(x+y),x+y \rangle - \langle T(x-y),x-y \rangle + i\langle T(x+iy), x+iy \rangle -i\langle T(x-iy),x-iy \rangle$
without proof.
I can show the forward implication quite easily:
If $T$ is self adjoint, then $T = T^*$ so $ \langle Tx,x \rangle = \langle x,Tx \rangle = \overline{\langle Tx,x \rangle}$
Only real values are equal to their conjugate so this show $ \langle Tx,x \rangle \in \mathbb R$ for all $x \in H$.
However, I am having trouble showing the other direction holds. I've tried using the parallelogram identity and then equating real parts but to little avail. I am wondering how to go about this.