A good approach for an intuitive understanding of the Jacobi method is to pretend that you are presented with a system of linear equations to solve, and you need to invent a way to solve them. The exercise below shows how you would naturally invent the general idea of using iterative solutions of linear equations, including the Jacobi method.
P.S. First recall the general concept of any iterative relaxation:
Step 1: Calculate a residual value that measures a difference between a current approximate solution and the true solution.
Step2: Perform an operation on the input variables that will reduce the residual value of a new approximate solution.
Step 3: Perform these steps until the residual is small enough.
A system of linear equations L1, L2, L3… has variables x1, x2, x3…, and is expressed in matrix form as Ax=b. The core idea developed below is solving a system of linear equations by inventing an iterative relaxation method of shrinking the length of a residual error vector toward zero (residual vector = Ax-b). Then the method is modified to perform a group of iterations in parallel in order to produce essentially the Jacobi method. The Jacobi method to solve linear equations is evolved by starting from a well-known, hill-climbing, multidimensional, gradient-free minimization method that shrinks the length of a residual error vector (residual vector = Ax-b) to zero, at which point the x vector then solves the linear equations.
For teaching purposes, we assume that the linear equations have strict diagonal dominance in order to ensure convergence below. Each linear equation L1, L2, L3… defines a “plane” (in 2D, 3D, 4D…) and is associated with the corresponding variable x1, x2, x3…. First, a trial point x1, x2, x3… is guessed. At each iteration, the method then cyclically adjusts each x1, x2, x3… in turn along the corresponding axis direction until the length of the residual vector is minimized in that direction, which needs numerous calculations of the length of the residual vector. Next, and importantly, you notice that when each x1, x2, x3… is adjusted, that the minimum value of the length of the residual vector always occurs when the trial point is adjusted to lie in the “plane” of the linear equation corresponding to the variable x1, x2, x3…. Because the equations are linear, this adjustment can be directly calculated. Thus the residual vector no longer needs to be calculated, and the calculation is removed, leaving only the iterative algorithm. This method of cyclically adjusting the trial point is seen to converge because it reduces the length of the residual vector at each iteration.
At this point, you essentially have the Gauss-Seidel method. Finally you notice that the adjustments above to x1, x2, x3… can be made independently and simultaneously, which is essentially the Jacobi method. When the algorithm is expressed algebraically in an iterative matrix form, it becomes $x^{k+1} = x^{k} - D^{-1}(Ax^k - b)$, where D is the diagonal matrix.
Backing up a bit, you see that changing x1 may reduce the residual element of the first equation L1, but also changes the residuals of the other equations L2, L3, L4…, sometimes increasing the individual residual element length and sometimes decreasing the individual residual element length, but we easily notice that the total decreases are always more than the total increases: the sum of the lengths (i.e., absolute value) of all the residual elements (the L1 metric) always decreases, and we realize that this means that eventually the residual vector will be reduced to zero. This is ensured because of diagonal dominance, as assumed above. Thus we will use the L1 metric for the length of the residual vector. In other words, you are adjusting x1 in order to reduce the total residual vector, not specifically to reduce the residual of the first equation L1, but because of diagonal dominance, it happens that the residual of the first linear equation will shrink the most. Similarly, adjusting x2 will reduce the residual of the second liner equation the most. It is old and well-known to use the L1 metric in minimization methods, as discussed in many references on minimization.
We see that $D^{-1}$ is used as an approximate inverse matrix by using the diagonal terms of A as an approximation of the original matrix. You can see that this is not a bad idea when the diagonal terms are strongly dominant. In other words, when the diagonal terms are dominant, then the system of linear equations is approximated by setting the off-diagonal terms to zero; that is, each linear equation is approximated by the single largest term. The idea of an approximate inverse matrix is another valuable idea from the Jacobi method.
This iterative process motivates the use of general iterative methods to solve linear equations.
For a more detailed discussion of an intuitive explanation of the Jacobi method, see the document at https://doi.org/10.6084/m9.figshare.5969263.v1