I've read a bunch of articles here on converting between rectangular and polar coordinates in integrals. I get the intuition about how the natural infinitesimal area segment in rectangular coordinates is an infinitesimal square (ergo $dx\;dy$) but is an infinitesimal chunk of an annulus in polar coordinates (ergo $r\;d\theta\cdot dr$). What I don't get is why we can just swap the two out without some kind of scaling factor. That is, why is it that if we write $dx\;dy = \lambda{}r\;dr\;d\theta$, we have $\lambda=1$?
E.g., when I imagine making $\theta$ infinitesimal first, the infinitesimally thin sector in polar coordinates has area $\frac{1}{2}r^{2}\theta$ whereas the rectangle with infinitesimal height has area $xy \approx r^2\theta$ since the part of the sector falling outside the rectangle vanishes and what we're left with is practically a triangle within the rectangle. In other words, the rectangular coordinate area is twice that of the polar coordinate area. If we look at the infinitesimal band of the annulus at the end (i.e., looking at the "crust" of the "pie slice"), won't that cause the part of the sector falling outside the rectangle to play a dominant role again? Why would that just happen to have the same area as a rectangle with the same infinitesimal width?
I've read that this is "explained" by using the Jacobian in converting between rectangular and polar coordinates since the determinant of the Jacobian is $r$ and not $\lambda r$ for some $\lambda \neq 1$. But this doesn't really inform my intuition. I get that the Jacobian of a function $f$ at $p$ is $f$'s best linear approximation at $p$, but I don't get why the thing to do here is to take its determinant and inject that into an integral when you're switching between coordinate systems. And that seems so much more general than what I'm looking for here. Is it actually necessary to understand all square Jacobians to get why the infinitesimal areas of rectangular and polar coordinates just happen to be equal?
So$\ldots$ why is $\lambda=1$?