A specific group lacking Følner sequences How does one go about proving that the free group $<a,b,a^{-1},b^{-1}>$ lacks any Følner sequence?
 A: I'm going to sketch the standard proof, but it actually has a sticky technical point, so I'm not sure how satisfying you will find it.
First, a group $G$ is said to be amenable if it has a finitely additive, left-invariant probability measure. That is, there is a function $\mu\colon \mathcal P(G)\to [0,1]$ such that $\mu(G)=1$, $\mu(X\amalg Y)=\mu(X)+\mu(Y)$, and for all $g\in G$, $\mu(X)=\mu(gX)$. (Here $X \amalg Y$ is the union of $X,Y$ assuming they are disjoint.)
Now if a group has a Følner sequence $F_i$, you can define
$$\mu(X)=\operatorname{ulim}_{i\to \infty} \frac{|X\cap F_i|}{|F_i|}.$$
The fancy $\operatorname{ulim}_{i\to\infty}$ is the ultrafilter limit, and is a way to force limits to exist even when they don't. (This is that sticky technical point.) You can verify that $\mu$ is a finitely additive probability measure. See Wikipedia's article on Følner sequences. So in other words, the existence of a Følner sequence implies amenability.
But now, we can also show that $\langle a,b\rangle$ has no such probabilty measure. Let $W(\alpha)$ be the set of reduced words beginning with $\alpha$. Then
\begin{align*}
\langle a,b\rangle &=\{1\}\amalg W(a)\amalg W(a^{-1})\amalg W(b)\amalg W(b^{-1})\\
&=W(a)\amalg aW(a^{-1})\\
&=W(b)\amalg bW(b^{-1})
\end{align*}
Applying $\mu$ gives a contradiction, since the latter two equations give that $\mu(W(a)\amalg aW(a^{-1}))=\mu(W(b)\amalg bW(b^{-1}))=1$, and then the first equation gives
$1=\mu(\{1\})+2$, which is a contradiction.
