To write down the group $F/N$, the best way in this case is to find a normal form. Note that the last relation $abab^{-1}=e$ means that $ba=a^{-1}b = a^3b$ (that is, the element $b^{-1}a^{-3}ba$ is in $N$); so any coset representative that contains the string $ba$ can be replaced with a coset representative in which the string $ba$ is replaced with the string $a^3b$. The fact that $a^2b^{-2}\in N$ means that any coset representative that in which you have a $b^2$ can be replaced with one that has an $a^2$ instead. Proceeding in this way, you can conclude that every coset can be represented by an element of the form $a^i b^j$ with $0\leq i\leq 3$ and $0\leq j\leq 1$ (you can erase any $a^4$ since $a^4\in N$). Thus, the group $F/N$ has at most $8$ elements. You already know it has at least $8$ elements, so that means that each of these elements represent distinct cosets of $N$, so that gives you a way to express $F/N$ using the representatives.
"Writing down" the group $N$ is a bit more difficult, since it is an infinite subgroup in $F$. What exactly do you mean by "writing down $N$"? A way to determine if a given element of $F$ lies in $N$? This can be achieved by finding its "coset representative" from among the special set identified above. If you get $a^0b^0$, then the element was in $N$; if not, then it was not.