While I am not familiar with the book you mention (Schaum), I think you are on to something. There is definitely a difference between textbooks aimed at high school students and textbooks aimed at college students. Furthermore, this isn't just true of mathematics, but of other subjects as well. I would go so far as to say the whole learning process is generally a little different at the college level than at the high school level.
Part of this difference seems to be characterised by a change in how the information that you are expected to know at the end of a specific course is being presented.
In high school this information is presented to the student mostly verbally, through the medium of your teacher. The teacher ideally also serves as a motivational aid, but the textbook is relegated to a marginal role as a supplementary aid and reference. While textbook exercises are very important, they usually do not present new concepts, but merely help a student internalise already familiar ones. Perhaps high school textbooks are generally light on theory because it is assumed that the teacher will present new concepts during class discussion, and that many students will not bother to read the text.
In college new information is transmitted mostly via the written form, through the medium of your textbooks (and, especially later on, papers and journals). The professor thus becomes relegated to the marginal role of a supplementary aid and motivator. This becomes increasingly the case as one progresses to the higher levels of college education. In fact, some, like the eminent philosopher David Hume, have questioned the role of professors as knowledge repositories entirely: "There is nothing to be learned from a Professor, which is not to be met with in Books." I would not go so far myself, but very often the professor's most important role is to put the right books in your hand, and to motivate you to read them, as your mathematics teacher seems to have done. Plus, someone has to write the books.
What is certain is that you will be doing a lot more reading at the college level. This is true for the subject of mathematics and for other subjects as well.
A few years ago I came across a book that can help with this transition in acquiring information. It is called How to Read A Book, by Mortimer J. Adler and Charles Van Doren. Adler was a writer and philosopher who was the main force between Encylopedia Britannica's 60-volume Great Books of the Western World series, many of which are mathematics textbooks, or at least mathematically themed (e.g. Euclid's Elements, Apollonius of Perga's On Conic Sections, Nicomachus' Introduction to Arithmetic, Descartes' Geometry, Newton's Principia Mathematica, Whitehead's Introduction to Mathematics), so you can be sure he knew something about the subject. The book has been in print since 1960 and the latest edition is from 1972, but its subject matter is timeless. Books have been around for a long time, and will no doubt continue to exist in some shape and form in the foreseeable future.
At first it might seem a little silly to read a book about reading, but the subject is approached very formally, and the reader is given a series of rules and guidelines that are to be observed when reading analytically, or reading certain types of subject matter, such as mathematics. Many of these rules were completely new and extremely helpful to me, despite considering myself an avid reader prior to tackling this book. If you read this book carefully, and if you recursively apply the concepts presented within it to the book itself, you will emerge a much more analytical reader. This will greatly help you handle both mathematics text books at the college level, as well as books dealing with other subjects.
How to Read a Book deals with all kinds of reading matter, but is especially useful in handling expository books, or, to use your terms, books that contain large amounts of "theory". There is a specific section on how to read mathematics books. The critical reading section, however, which makes up the majority of the book, applies to all expository books, of which mathematics books are a mere subset.
I wish you great success on your quest.