My way to think about independence is as follows:
Given the set of vectors $S = \{a,b,c\}$
Then $S$ is linearly independent when:
$ma + nb + qc = 0$ if and only if the coefficients $m, n, q$ are all zero.
In other words, one of vectors $a, b$, or $c$ can't be expressed as a linear combination of the remaining vectors.
Or if we want to say this in the matrix interpretation, independent means we only have trivial solution for the coefficients.
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A simple example is the standard basis of R3:
Let $S = {(1, 0, 0), (0, 1, 0), (0, 0, 1)}$
(1) Then, if I use the "number" interpretation, I should set
$k1(1,0,0) + k2(0,1,0) + k3(0,0,1) = (0,0,0)$ where k1,k2,k3 are coefficients. Then by playing around with the system of equations, we see that $k1=k2=k3=0$ is the only way to make the above equation work
(2) In matrix notation, my matrix representation for the coefficients is a $3\times 3$ matrix, where the $1$'s indicate how many copies of coefficient $k1, k2$, or k3 is needed. The last column contains all 0's. This is exactly similar to what I said in (1), but it's only that we have a column vector of all zeros instead of a row vector of all zeros
$$\left[\begin{array}{ccc|c}
1 & 0 & 0 & 0 \\
0 & 1 & 0 & 0 \\
0 & 0 & 1 & 0
\end{array}\right]$$
Clearly by reading off the rows, we see $(0,0,0)$ is the only valid solution, and this solution is trivial.
So if you want to know where does the "independence" really happen, I guess the the word implies that the coefficients have no relation with the entries of the vectors. I don't care what numbers are in the vectors $a,b,c$. As long as I can set them into a linear combination, set it equal to the zero vector, and get zero coefficients, then even if my vectors $a,b,c$ are something crazy like (chair, cat, house), I still can exact information.
I hope this helps.