The steady state distribution is not enough to determine the mean hitting time $E(T)$ of a given subset $A$. To see this in a simple case, assume there are $2n$ states and consider the simple random walks on the discrete circle $C_{2n}$ and on the complete graph $K_{2n}$. By symmetry, the steady state distribution is uniform in both cases.
Choose $A=\{j\}$ and $i$ at distance $n$ from $j$ in $C_{2n}$. Then, $T$ for $C_{2n}$ is distributed like the first hitting time of $\pm n$ by a standard symmetric random walk on the discrete line starting from $0$, hence $E_{C_{2n}}(T)=n^2$. On the other hand, $T$ for $K_{2n}$ is distributed like the time of first success in an i.i.d. sequence of trials with probability of success $1/(2n-1)$ at each trial, hence $E_{K_{2n}}(T)=2n-1$. For every $n\ge2$, $E_{C_{2n}}(T)\ne E_{K_{2n}}(T)$.