Smoothing of absolute value and sign functions for numerical integration

I'm doing Numerical integration of ODEs. for a special system that has an always positive coordinate s and a conjugated momentum ps.

At some point the equations become so stiff that s becomes negative and if I improve tolerances of the numerical integrator, it crashes. To solve this problem, I'd like to approximate the ODEs with s_new=abs(s) and ps_new=-ps around the critical region (for example if(s<1.0e-8)). The problem is that these are not smooth. Numerical integrators (I use BDF) break down.

One solution that I came across is to use arctan for abs and erf for sign.

It was hard for me to find anything in literature on it. If you know of a better approach, please let me know. Note, there is conservation of energy, so there exist f(s,ps) such that df/dt=0

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I know nothing about the problem domain, so I am not sure the following is what you are looking for. Instead of the $sgn(x)$ function, it is customary to use $\tanh (kx)$ for some large constant $k$. – fishlips Apr 1 '12 at 8:48

You can use: $2\Phi(x/\sigma) - 1$ as a good approximation to the signum function, where $\sigma$ is small relative to $x$.